It sounds like flirting…
So are you naughty or nice?
I’d definitely get into trouble with you 😈
I’m very physical. Hope you can keep up 😉
I’m warning you now, I have a high sex drive.
Can I ask you something naughty? Would you like to…?
…but is it?
When your match texts you an innuendo-laden message before you’ve even met, they’re testing the waters.
Will you jump into bed with them on the first date?
No need to woo you.
No need to see if you even like each other.
Just the efficient arranging of a hookup.
If you’re tempted to take the bait, remember that sexting a complete stranger may feel hot in the moment… until you meet and discover you are not, in ANY way, attracted to them.
Except now you’ve set an expectation that you’ll end up in bed together – and you have to somehow extricate yourself from the situation. Awkward.
There’s another reason matches send dirty texts before you’ve even met. They think their sexy text is a turn-on. They genuinely believe they’re testing the chemistry.
They don’t realize that their inappropriate texts are actually turning off potential matches – they’re gross, not sexy.
Don’t cross that line.
Never say something to a match that you wouldn’t be happy being screenshotted and shared publicly.
Save your seduction skills to apply in person when you both feel a spark.
And if you’re on the receiving end of a dirty text, consider how that changes your view of this person. They don’t want to get to know you; they just want to sext you/expedite a hookup. Is that okay?
If not, you can simply block and move on – or report them if they’ve crossed a line.
Or you can give them one more chance by replying:
Way too early for that conversation.
That’s a pretty intense direction for a first conversation.
I prefer to meet someone before discussing that.
Bold strategy for someone I’ve never met.
That line probably works better on women who are already attracted to you.
I’m more of a ‘meet first, flirt later’ person.
I’m old-fashioned enough to want basic human interaction first.
I can’t tell if this is flirting or poor impulse control.
Would you say this five minutes into sitting down at a café?
That feels ambitious for two people who haven’t shared appetizers.
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